From childhood we are taught to tell the truth because lying is bad. It has become apparent to me that some of us were not taught this trait. I am not talking about a little white lie here and there, I am talking about the constant “change who I am with words” kind of lie. When I say “constant change who I am with words kind of lie” I mean people who lie about their parents and how they met, they lie about something that they copied and called their own. I mean the type of people who feel so unwanted in the world that they lie to make people like them because they do not feel like who they are is good enough.
I am here to say that that is not true. Fabricating “facts” about yourself is not a good way to make friends. The reason is because when they find out, they either will not want to be friends with you because you lied or will not feel able to trust you anymore and will not want to be around you.
The phrase “be yourself” is important. If someone does not like you, that does not mean there is anything wrong with you; your personalities just do no click. That just gives you a reason to search for different friends, the one who like you for you. You do not make lifelong friends by starting out with lies; that just is not how that works.
If you have brown hair you can not lie and tell them it is blonde because it is not true. The same is true for the things about you that are not visible. If you have never been to another country and you are friends with a traveler you should not tell them you have to make conversation because a conversation based on lies is just a story. Do not lie to someone to make them like you. Just be who you really are, and someone will want to get to know you better.